1.     His Name

This seems like a no-brainer but often when you are introduced to someone for the first time, the name slips through your short-term memory. Or you may just know him by his street name. If you still call him Dee-Dee or Man- Man… Find out his birth name.

When I meet a guy I hate for him to introduce himself tome by a street name. Find out who he is before you fuck him…

2.His Age

Men aren't the only ones that suffer from “well…she LOOKED 18” syndrome. There are plenty of baby-face older guys Do you really want to wake up in the morning with someone's who goes to school with your teen-ager?

3.     His Health Status

You now know the guys name and age. “Is this guy HIV positive?” “Does he have any STD's?” “Has he ever had an STD?” should be some of your very next questions.

He could lie but it does not hurt to at least ask…

Even if he looks good still protect yourself

4.     Who They Are?

Who is he? Maybe you guys have been seeing each other for a few weeks. This is the perfect time to find out what kind of person you're dealing with. Does he have mental issues? Anger problems? Is he controlling? If he yells at waiters for no reason, abuses animals, exhibits road-rage, etc.; just imagine how he would treat you - especially if you're sleeping with him.

5.     Where He Comes From?

My mother has told me before that a man was not on my level.. At the time I thought she was being unfair. But after dating him being raised in different financial households we held different morals. Find out first before you give him some ass.

6.     Where He Lives?

He will only meet you at a restaurant. He will only come to your home. You've been seeing him for months and haven't seen his place. This man may have several very good excuses why: “it's being renovated”, “it's a mess”, “it's being fumigated”. Or, more than likely, you can't come by because - he still lives at home with his parents and sleeps in a race-car bed, his wife wouldn't appreciate meeting you, he lives under a freeway, he's into (insert weird behavior here)…etc. If you can't see his place, he shouldn't be able to see yours.

7.     What He Does for a Living

Again, this is not a class issue. I like a man with a lot of money, but I have dated rich guys and they are always workaholics you have to decide if you can deal with that.

8.     Is He a Dope Fiend?

There is nothing worse than realizing the person you're with has a drug problem. Unless you also have a drug problem…now you have someone to score with!

9.     His “True” Sexual Preference

This one is self explanatory. There are many reasons why a man would want to hide his true feelings but do you really want to be his bump in the road on to true homosexuality? If you see signs, don't think you can “convert” him

10. Your Feelings

After carefully considering everything, have you taken the time to consider your own feelings? If you have some idea that in the morning you'd hate yourself for what you're doing the night before - why do it?

Why is It that men like to hit it and quit it?

I think it is because they fear commitment.

A man does not like to feel like he has to check in or has to let someone know where he is going where a woman finds that basic rules of any relationship.

And if you are not cheating what does it matter.

I am grown and I always let someone know where I am.

It’s like a man will stay around he will play the wait game with you…

Then once you hit the bedroom he is gone…

Maybe not instantly but he does start to distant himself from you.

Things that he once enjoyed irritate him now.

Now he is smothered when at first he could not stand to be without you.

I believe it’s just because men view love differently from how we view it.

Men like Challenge…

They like the chase

Once you let a man know you have fallen for him

The hunt and the chase are over and in a lot of situations so is the relationship.

 He will soon then find the need to chase someone else…

I think that’s what happened in my last relationship…

It moved to fast…

I realized that a man I once idolized I could not stand…

He became ignorant to me…

His morals were so UGHHHHH to me…

I wanted the chase to be over and was happy that he complied so easily….

I swear if I see him I will walk right past him…

He was OFFICIALLY ERASED….

Sorry for venting….

SO yeah that’s why I think that men run after they say that they want to be in a relationship..

Not all men are like that..

But just in case you feel your man might be

Don’t worry…

If you like him do not… I mean do not give him to much right away….

Keep him chasing for your affection…..

Do not always give in to him….

Let him know that he is not the only one who wants to chase you…

He must understand that…

HE MUST…

If he is not attracted to you more than just sexually I am sorry but whatever you two have started will not last long at all.

KINKY

Maybe I am a dreamer              

But I know that I am not the only one…..

I know that out there somewhere is a MAN who will love me for everything that I am and everything that I can be.

I know that I am not perfect and I do not try to be.

All I ask in return is that you be a man.

Now what is so hard about that?

You will be surprised how many men pretend to be the man that they are not.

I want to be courted….

Feel me…

I do not want to talk to you on the phone 4x and then you text me and ask me if you can watch me make my self cum…

Damn you don’t even have the balls to call and ask me that bullshit….

I do not want you to only know my nickname and tell me how bad you wish I was in the bed with you…

Hello!

Get to know me…

Take me out to dinner

We can go for a walk on the lake front

We can go to the show

We can go have drink….

What part of me has made you believe that I am the type of woman that would do the things that you have suggested…

Is it because I am DA KINKY KID….

Well she does not let everyone get a chance to indulge in her kinkiness

It takes one special man to win the heart of a woman like me

A woman who knows bullshit when she sees it

A woman who does not need you

A woman who is entertained by life and not the presence of a man..

I want a man to charm me..

A man who is intelligent and witty

A man who can listen and respond…..

A man with a stable career

A man who is honest

A man who is good in bed and it shows through his swagger not his actions

I don’t need you to brag……UGHHHHH

A man who is sincere

A man who knows how to spoil

Now I seek nothing that I am not willing to give in return….

I know what I WANT…

DO YOU?

Ladies have you ever dated a guy who has gotten a boyzilian…

A boyzilian is equivalent to that of a Brazilian bikini wax for women..

It's where they go and get their pubic hair waxed….

Now if that is too much for you …

You can request that they do a little Manscaping….

MANSCAPING is a term used to define male grooming below the belt.

A male can use both an electric razor and a regular razor.

 A Mach 3 is preferable with the ladies on the testicular area

No female likes to deal with hairy balls, so men must education themselves on proper manscaping and maintenance techniques.

Most men will think of it as gay,,, but it's not…..

Now if your man trust you enough maybe you can be in charge of his manscaping…

I have shaved my mans' balls and pubic hair before (when I had one)

I think it is very sexual and very sensual

And ladies if you shave your self as well the feeling you get when the 2 shave embodiments rub against one another during the course of some passionate love making the feeling is phenomenal.

The only thing is the complaining and itching your man may have once the hair starts to grow back..

Some Tips

Don't shave too low on the side of the penis…

That is the most sensitive area for most men..

Avoid his anus

Use a moisturizing cream when shaving…

So the question is should a man shave his pubic hair?

                         YES FOR ME

I LIKE EM’ BUT THEY ARE WHITE…….

INTERACIAL DATING IS MORE ACCEPTED NOW A DAYS BUT PEOPLE STILL ARE UNEASY ABOUT IT

WHY?

I have dated a white guy before but I have never been in a relationship with a white man before.

I told myself recently I was going to start dating white guys because black guys are not doing it for me anymore.

I know that if I see a fine brother walk down the street with a white girl do I get mad…. NO..

Ok well if she looks like trailer trash yes I do get mad but if she is pretty then I am happy for him. Hell I don’t know why I do I just do.

The reason I get mad is because they hold such high standards of how the want their African American woman to look like…. But what they choose in another race is so beneath what they expect from us.

Now that may be stereotypical and not true for all black men …

But a majority of them (that I know)

It’s the truth.

The reality is that we fear what we don’t know.

But one thing Kinky does know is that LOVE IS LOVE….

No matter what color what creed what nationality what sex……

Say you meet this great person. You all go out together, you laugh together, you shoot pool, play darts, drink, dance, go out to eat, hit the clubs, and you just enjoy each other.

Who are we to say that you don’t deserve to give it a chance…

I can’t really see myself loving a white man but why not….

I know how to love a rich man

I know how to love a broke man

I know how to love a honest man

I know I have loved a liar (damn, damn, damn)

I have heard black men say that black women don’t respect and support their men.

So that’s why they go to white women…

Hey I got a list of thing that MEN don’t do period.

I write about this shit to much to label it as things that black men don’t do.

WE ALL FUCK UP

Real Talk

Whites are not superior in relations

Nor are we

We all live and learn.

Any woman that will say I am going to women cuz these men are getting on my nerves …. Will come back and say women are worse than men…

We don’t know.

When I was little I thought I was going to marry KEN… (Barbie Man)

So Ken if you are out there and you like thick pretty (light bright) women..

HOLLA AT KINKY

Let me know how you feel about this topic?

Oh and just so you know 90% of black men date black women…..

All mothers are working mothers.  ~Author Unknown

QUOTE OF THE DAY

This is a tribute to me……….

Being a Single Mother and any other mother who may understand

Do I deserve recognition for my task at hand

I believe that I do so let me make you understand

I laid down and created something magnificent

And even though you choose not to help THEY are still heaven sent

When I look into the eyes of my seeds

How could you not want to be a part of the air that they breathe?

Every time they speak my name

I know that without them my life would not be the same

I have beat Cancer for them

I have survived abuse for them

I am educated for them

I am strong because of them

For the ones who did not make it

Even though I never looked in your eyes

You are a part of my soul

I cry at the thought of losing you

But my struggle is so hard with just the two

I apologize for some of the choices I have made

I to sometimes feel betrayed

They are missing some of the greatest moments of your life

I may have conceived you not being his wife

But God chose him for me

And he may not be the man that I thought he would be

To you

I will never leave your side.

You two are my Pride and my joy

My Beautiful daughter and my handsome little boy

Thank you for making me overcome obstacles I would probably not have won

If I didn’t have you as a daughter or you as a son

Our journey together is worth ever tear

I don’t know who I would be if you all were not here

I still have a lot to learn, true I make mistakes

But sometimes in life there are risks we have to take

I may not be able to give you all the fancy things

But I will not give up because you both deserve EVERYTHING…..

Please know that I wish it was easier

I wish we had it better

I give you everything that I am

Being a mother to you has made me a woman

My daughter has held my hand through so much

And with you I am in love

You make this worthwhile

I thank GOD for such a wonderful child.

I am so proud of me cause of you

And its so much I want to do

Baby I’m sorry it’s been so hard for mama

I have eliminated all the drama

I remember when you asked me if I was going to die

Because of my cancer…

WE WON

Your brother came just when we needed him

And our journey together has just begun…

I am not done….

Just raising you alone….

Love You BOTH

That’s just my BABY DADDY!

Hey it is what it is…

I don’t know about you but how do you refer to a man that has fathered your child(ren) that you are no longer involved with. Nor were you married to this man. Hell you might not even like him as a person any more.

Well for me….

BABY DADDY

It has been told that the slang term Baby Daddy and Baby Mama originated in Jamaica and entered into our society through the music.

Linval Thompson a Jamaican musician wrote a song titled “ Baby Mother” and another titled “Baby Father”

In the song “Baby Father” The opening line is: "Baby father, don't run. Don't hide."

Some other artists that speak about it are:

Queen Pen

OutKast

Trick Daddy

Bass Patrol

I love it.

Studies show that the term refers to a child who was made on the outside.

Meaning the parents were not married or even common law.

The child is a bastard…

So instead of saying Oh that’s my bastards daddy I just say THAT’S JUST MY BABY DADDY..

I have very little assistance in the raising of my children.

Did I say little…

Just making sure you read it….

We are not co-parenting.

I do this on my own

So what is this man that I conceived this baby with to me now

He is JUST MY BABY DADDY.

This word has no impact on our child…

This is just a saying to state the relationship between us.

I think it is a fun word to say…

Some people don’t like it

If you look up the definition of the word in the Urban Dictionary the term not only includes the lack of marriage and involvement between parents, but also include references to broken character, broken will, and even more broken cash flow (unless you’re a “baby mama”, in which case you’re a gold-digging slut).

Now I am no gold-digging slut…

Sometimes I wish I was maybe I would not struggle so hard raising 2 children on my own…

But neither here nor there……

The word does not take the negative impact that I believe it once carried when it was first introduced to us in our society.

To me it just shows the act of fathering a child with no real parenting..

So for me to be called a baby mama by my terms would be a little different since I am the one raising our child.

However it is a slang word. So it does not bother me.

Some people say that is can mean there is still some involvement between the 2 parents…

Not in my case….

Only your daughter wants to talk to you involvement.  Lol

Hey but some men can always hit they baby mama (not like with a fist you know fuck em’)

Anyway I know when I meet a man and he finds out you have children…

Uhh you still mess around with your Baby Daddy…..?

Hell to the naw…..

Anyway tell me what you think about this word and its usage….

After six years of repeated delays, jury selection is set to begin in R Kelly's trial on child pornography charges, prompted by a videotape allegedly showing the Grammy-winning R&B singer having sex with a girl as young as 13.

Defense attorneys have filed a motion seeking to postpone the trial.

The reasons for the motion are being kept secret, but it comes as publicity surrounding the case heats up and some media speculate about who might testify.

When the trial gets under way, prosecutors will have a unique challenge: the alleged victim, now 23, says it wasn't her.

And Kelly's attorneys - including Ed Genson, who often represents the rich and famous - haven't admitted its Kelly in the video.

So you meet this great guy …… you start dating….. and you want to  make this a more one on one situation…..

I am going to give you some ways to find out what it is he really wants…..

These tips (clues) will help you to determine what you should or should not do to make the relationship work….

For the both of you

1. Move slowly. Mind your self-esteem. Never chase after him, be fairly (moderately) active. Play hard to get, but don’t overdo, since men don’t enjoy of being turned down.

To encourage a man to begin a serious relationship, one might need to convince him that you possess all the merits of his ideal partner. When a man is unwilling to enter into serious relationships with you, this may just mean you are not what he is seeking in a partner.

 
2. You should never ague, on the way to starting a relationship with a man. Let the sleeping dog lie. He is the winner and would definitely suffer if defeated. Men don’t like it when one points out his mistakes or tries to seem smart. Inspire self-confidence in him, admiring his strength, generosity, diligence and feelings for you.

3. You cannot change a man. Especially if you are in your 30’s he is who he is just like you are who you are.  I always say a person cannot be changed but if they like you and want to be with you they will learn to adapt to you. Foolish attempts to change a man will never do. Verbal attack makes him feel confused. Pout your sweet lips and a man will admit his being wrong.

4.  In desperate efforts to improve relationship with your man, keep on telling him how great he is as a lover. Tell him I have never felt like this before. It’s the truth. No 2 men make you feel the same way. Whisper to his left ear that you’re on cloud nine, while he is doing those sexy things with you. Never tell him about your ex-lovers and sexual experience. Flirting with other men and making a man jealous results in jeopardizing your love.

5. Avoid being rude with him. A soft answer turns away an argument. Be sweet and easy going. Forgive. Be thankful and happy, accepting his showering you with gifts. When you make an effort to improve relationship with a man, you better seem less independent, for he is the one to become your shelter and support.

6.  Show your interest in his business and profession, emphasize that his activities are of high importance to you. Having not the foggiest idea of the issue, ask him for advice and explanation. When you’re aimed to improve relationship with men, be swift to hear, slow to speak.

7. Show an overflow of respect to man’s parents. Tell them that you adore them, especially his mother. Devote as much attention to her, as possible. One that respects not is not respected.

8.  Learn to improve relationship with men by not meddling in a precious moment of their solitude. Leave your man in peace, give him an opportunity to relax and turn over in his mind. From time to time, let him go out and have fun without you.

9. Take it into consideration that men are usually telling lies to improve relationship. You may force him to conceal the truth, asking if you are beautiful, if he likes that girl more than you and why, if he needs you and what for, etc.

10.  If you intend to improve relationship with your man by means of seduction, keep fit and let him be delighted with your tremendous beauty. Don’t misuse make up, be natural. Smile and laugh more frequently, never look sad. You are not a dramatic actress. Probably, one day he will realize you are irresistible.

These few tips will help you get that man….